"It's OK, because it's not OK"
It's OK to be sad, it's OK to be angry, it's OK to laugh, it's OK to cry, it's OK to be exhausted, it's OK to be relieved it's over, it's OK to be mad at God, it's OK to feel whatever it is any of us (involved at the heart of this or holding distant friends in our hearts) are feeling over this, and you know why?
Because what happened is NOT OK. It's not OK for 4 children to be without their daddy tonight, it's NOT OK for a wife to be without the husband of her restored marriage tonight. This is not OK, because this is not how it should be.
And if I could be there in person this is what I would say, What has happened is not OK and I will never tell you it is or it will be one day or anything like that and whatever you are feeling in response, that IS OK, that is acceptable, that is not wrong, it is merely what it is, your response to this situation, plain and simple, it just is!